Sex Addiction in Divorce Attorney in Union County NJ
Divorce can wreak havoc on the emotional life of both parties, no matter what the cause
Psychology Today defines sex addiction, or hypersexual disorder, as a diagnosis of someone who thinks about or engages in sex more than is healthy and normal. Listed on the World Health Organization’s International Classification of Diseases, sex addiction is a serious issue that can affect the health and wellbeing of both the person who suffers from the addiction and, of course, their whole family. This is exacerbated when legal proceedings of a divorce because of sex addiction are entered into the scenario. When the reason for divorce is that one partner is a sex addict, however, not only emotional repercussions are undergone. Sex addiction can affect the divorce proceedings and even custody.
When a partner has committed adultery, there is no legal standing for the cheating affecting custody proceedings or separation of assets during a divorce. However, a spouse who has committed adultery and, due to sex addiction, undergone such dangerous acts as leaving a child in order to meet with a sex partner or engaged in sexual activity in the presence of their child, there can absolutely be legally upheld repercussions. During a child custody hearing, a court may employ a child custody evaluator to investigate the effects of a sex addict’s actions on their children who will follow strict guidelines to learn more information. The child custody evaluator will interview the involved children and their parents separately to gather information about the dynamics within the home. Additionally, a divorce attorney may review the family’s finances to determine whether jointly-held funds were used in the engagement of illicit sexual activities. If this is found to be the case, financial compensation can be obtained.
Are you getting divorced, and your ex-partner is a sex addict? Here’s what you can do to swiftly complete the divorce procedures while taking care of your own – and your children’s – emotional wellness.
Focus on your healing and that of your family, and not revenge.
The emotional repercussions of a divorce due to sex addiction are many, and one may be tempted to seek justice or revenge. This only creates more trauma and separation from a healthy, whole, self, so leave the legal navigation to your divorce attorney and focus on your own healing.
Seek emotional support.
Divorcing from a partner who is a sex addict likely bears with it the brunt of unresolved inner trauma and a sense of betrayal. Speak to a professional to expedite your process of coming to terms with the actions of your ex-partner and find resolution within your own self. There are many ways to speak to a professional – through talk or psychosomatic therapy or through facilitated groups for divorcing partners. According to the Mental Health Foundation, talk therapy supports the filtering through painful emotions instead of repressing them, allowing you to find growth and healing through the process. Honor your process by turning to a professional for support.
Communicate with your children.
While they don’t need to know the details, keeping an open line of communication with your children about the basic reasons for your divorce is important and builds trust between parents and children. This bond will be essential as you navigate the transition out of partnership and co-living. Ask your child questions about how they are feeling and what their experience has been throughout the process pre-divorce and during the separation. Encourage them to share experiences they may have had with the ex-partner related to their sex addiction; when children see or experience something that they don’t understand but that doesn’t feel right to them, they often keep that information and accompanying conflicting feelings within, as they are not sure if it’s okay to share it, and how. Transparency and communication create safety and build trust; talk to your kids about what’s going on.
Transparency doesn’t, however, mean tell-all. Honor the developmental age of your child and say only what needs to be said. Be honest about the fact that sex addiction is a disease if the child is old enough to explore an open conversation about sex. Be as objective as possible, telling only facts and not burdening your child with your emotional upheaval. If your child is young, simply explain that your ex-partner ‘broke a commitment by being in a physical relationship with someone else.’
Consult an experienced Divorce Attorney in Linden NJ Today
At The Law Offices of Edward S. Cooper, our attorneys have extensive experience helping parents across Linden, Clark, Cranford, Elizabeth, and across Union County NJ in all family law matters, including divorce that involves the sex addiction of one partner, and the child custody arrangements that stem from such a divorce.
Our unique approach focuses on finding solutions that ensure the stability of the families involved, rather than over-litigating matters and sowing strife and resentment, thereby costing families precious relationships and resources needed to protect their futures and the futures of their children.
To speak with our firm today in a comprehensive and confidential case assessment regarding your divorce, your child support agreement, or a child support modification, please contact his offices anytime at (908) 481-4625 or fill out our online form to schedule an appointment.