Union County NJ Child Support and Co-Parenting Issues
Child support and healthy co-parenting can be a challenge without a plan in place that promotes a healthy environment for the children. Call a Linden NJ Divorce and Family Lawyer Today.
Unpaid child support can be a vicious cycle. Child support, regardless of who has child custody, can be a tough part of co-parenting after divorce, separation, or a civil union dissolution, especially if as the custodial parent months can go by without any payments. In some cases unpaid child support is due to financial hardship, making it difficult for the parent to meet his or her support obligation. Maybe there isn’t a court order in place, there are parenting time and visitation issues or the non-custodial parent is being difficult, but any mistrust still lingering in feelings about one’s ex could result in parental alienation or future difficulty in the parent-child relationship.
While co-parenting reduces much of the stress related to shared custody, duties and decision-making in less amicable relationships between divorcing couples, children still face a great deal of stress due to the physical and emotional upheaval of fitting themselves into two separate lives, and parents often subconsciously projecting their emotional and mental distress onto the shoulders of their children.
Unpaid child support makes meeting financial obligations to your child harder to meet as time passes. Failing to pay child support is a big problem all across the state of New Jersey and carries with it serious consequences.
Co-parent as a Team & Emotionally or Financially Support Your Child
- You child’s needs come first – your child’s mental security and sense of well-being is a priority
- Practice effective communication strategies and if speaking in person leads to emotional or aggressive feelings, communicate in written form
- If possible, work with a lawyer to prepare a child support agreement, so both you and your ex have a better understanding of the financial obligations by both parties
- If you can’t pay your child support fully, pay as much as you can and make partial child support payments to your co-parent
- Keep an accurate record of the financial payments you make. Paying cash directly could lead to negative legal action regarding non-payment from the New Jersey Child Support Probation Department and possible wage garnishment.
- Don’t withhold visitation for non-payment. Financial disputes are between the adults and the child should not be punished. Parents withholding visitation could be charged with contempt.
- Take action to modify your child support if financial circumstances change. Communicating with your co-parent regarding a job loss, health issues, or another situation that requires a temporary reduction in payment is a positive way to maintain a healthy line of communication between both parties and work towards making sure your child is still priority number one.
- Stick to your parenting schedule, as it will help your child feel more secure about the changing family dynamics. They need to know they can count on you. Canceling or changing your parenting time arrangement is a disservice to the child.
- Don’t relocate or move to another state to avoid child support payments. A child support order entered in one state in enforceable in any other state, and if what you owe exceeds $5000 you could face federal criminal charges and up to two years in prison.
- Self-care and positive self-talk or assuring your own mental health and well-being is a good way for your child to see and interact with a healthy parent who sees themselves as a valuable person.
- Be careful about introducing new partners. It is critical that you and your co-parent discuss the role any new partners will have in your child’s life. Many family professionals recommend that new partners should not be involved in any of the mutual child-rearing decisions, nor should they communicate with the ex-partner on matters related to the children, until the new partners have a secure place in the family structure. Your child’s well-being and best interest should be the priority. In the future, you and your co-parent will both want to agree on how the new partners can best contribute to the decisions made that affect the children.
- Practice forgiveness. With time forgiving yourself and if you possibly, your former spouse, can be a positively powerful lesson of resilience and healing, not only for yourself but your child.
Consult an Experienced Cranford Child Support & Co-Parenting Attorney
Attending to all of the issues involved with the divorce and child custody process can be overwhelming. Having a seasoned advocate on your side can provide you with peace of mind while ensuring that each facet of your case is effectively resolved and your child’s financial future is secure.
To discuss your current situation and find the answers to your questions, contact us online or call our offices at (908) 481-4625 today to arrange a safe, secure, convenient, and confidential virtual consultation meeting via your smartphone, tablet, or computer. Attorney Edward S. Cooper will fight to protect your rights and is ready to arrange your consultation via Skype, WhatsApp video, FaceTime, Zoom, or Google Hangout to discuss how he can best support you and meet your legal needs.